Every time that we get in a car it is always a journey with our dear Madisen. She likes her car seat but only after she has been buckled in and you lift her up and move with her in it. Before that she screams or is on the verge of tears then when you lift her up in her car seat she is instantly happy again. Then we place her in the car and she screams until the car starts rolling. She does mostly very well in the car and most of the time she will fall asleep. However, if she is awake and has any stops to our destination i.e. red lights, stop signs, crashes..I mean you name it she throws a fit.
Due to the fact that I am used to this shall I say behavior it no longer bothers me. I know that when the light turns green and we start to roll again Madisen will be back to her happy usual self. But when I go on a trip anywhere with anyone my first concern is that they are aware that my daughter is not a fan of stopping in the car while awake. I proceed to explain that shortly after getting in a car she will fall asleep but that is at least 5 miles in before she gives into the sandman. But those first 5 miles are tough on me when I am with someone. I know that being in a car with my friends who have kids that did the same didn't bother me as much as it did their mother but I hope this is a phase that Madisen eventually grows out of. I like going places with friends :)
What I don't understand is why is the car moving such a big deal to my dear little daughter? What is it that freaks her out when the car is stopping?
I will tell you a story of desperation that I think is sort of comical :)
A couple weeks ago my Mom and I were headed to Hanford to visit my Nana. We have a tradition of getting Starbucks every time we head out. I know to NEVER go the Starbucks in Tulare because they are so SLOW. I don't know if they brew the coffee by hand or press their own espresso's but man they kill me. So out of pure lack of concentration the other day I swooped into the drive in lane at Starbucks and knew instantly that was the wrong thing to do. Madisen screamed like crazy that it was nearly impossible to place an order. My Mom was climbing over the seat to attempt to calm Madisen down and I kid you not when I tell you we were in line for over 15 minutes with two cars ahead of us. I tried to back out but at the last minute a car came in behind us. OH NO we were stuck, we were in it for the long hall. LONG HALL it was. We tried everything short of ramming the car in front of us to get the heck out of the lane and to do donuts in the parking lot until our order was ready but nothing was going to calm her down. Nothing but the car moving again. My poor Madisen was sooo mad and screaming that no radio in the world could be louder than her. I knew she had a clean diaper, a full tummy and she had just woken from a nap so there was literally nothing we could do to calm her down. Her Paci my savior wasn't even working. It was a nightmare. I felt so bad for the Starbucks employee because I was so ready to scream by the time we paid and what made it worse was she didn't even apologize for the extremely long wait but then again it wasn't like she had any clue that we had a wild banshee loose in the back seat. Then as we pull away to make our way to Hanford my beautiful amazing daughter drifted quietly back to sleep without so much as a peep until we pulled into my Grandmothers drive way. :)
I am not sure why she is like this and I am frightened to ever attempt another drive thru again for fear of God that we have a repeat. I have gone to several but only after noticing I would be the only car in line and the screaming would be kept to a minimum. I also refuse to make my Mom or husband sit in the back seat because I don't want Madisen getting used to someone entertaining her to calm her down. She needs to learn to soothe herself I think because I don't want us to be 15 still having to ride in the back seat with her because she freaks out :)
Do your babies do this or am I just the lucky one?
Not sure if this will help but baby Phil would scream sometimes all the way to or home from Fresno sometimes, nothing I could do but turn the radio up and try to drown it out! Sometimes he was fine and sometimes he was not, it is very tough to sit through 30 min of a screaming baby in the car and there is nothing you can do! Now our little Maddy, will usually always fall asleep in the car but if she doesn't she hates to be facing backwards still and be strapped down and confined and she will scream and fuss, it usually stops when we go for awhile but sometimes nothing helps but to get out and waiting, forget it, she has no room for waiting in her life, LOL! I have had friends say their kids were great in the car and I have had some say their kids hate it! I hope for you guys and all involved she gets better about real soon! I can't wait to turn our Maddy around, I think this should solve our problem! Oh yes the joys of parenting! :)
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